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How To Bolster Girls’ Self-Esteemfrom: Marie K Gordon - Guest Contributor
How one succeeds in life depends on several factors, but it has its roots on self-perception. Self-esteem or self-respect is defined as a realistic respect for or favorable impression of oneself. Also considered pride in one’s self.
A person who has a healthy level of self-esteem is one who is characterized by: his or her ability to trust people, is easy to get along with, accepts and gives compliments freely, do not encounter difficulties in expressing his or her feelings and emoitons in positive ways, is not afraid to take reasonable risks, solves and faces problems head on, is independent and is not afraid to make mistakes as they see these to be learning experiences instead of failures, enjoys meeting new people and is focused on the positive outcomes and probabilities more than the negative outcomes.
On the contrary, one who is lacking in self-esteem is someone who mostly procrastinates, gives up easily and are afraid to try new things. They are also not very friendly as they see new people as potential torturers who would trample on what little achievements they may have had.
Self-esteem issues are mostly found in girls. This is because society, over a span of several years have put too much premium on how a girl should look and behave whereas boys are allowed to be themselves. It is only recently that parents and society in general are learning to adapt to new measures which include teaching a person to be comfortable moving in their own skins. By accepting a person for who they are and effectively bringing out the best in them.
There are many ways on how to develop girls’ self-esteem. Sometimes, they do it on their own unconciously. Some feel that better clothes would raise their level of self-esteem. But this is a wrong notion. While clothing or make-up can make one feel good about him or herself for a time. This is not permanent.
If one’s self-esteem is dependent on his or her appearance, then what happens if this goes? They would start feeling bad about themselves. Compare this to someone who is happy about the way he or she is, for exactly the person he or she is. His or her happiness would not be dependent on movable things. They would be happy regardless of what they wear or how they look.
Development of girls’ self-esteem starts from childhood. There are several ways to do this. One way is to help a child feel special. Appreciate them for the little things that they do and never overlook their little achievements. While it is hard to keep focusing on the positive things after a long and grueling day at work, but practice is the key.
If a girl has siblings, by all means, avoid comparisons. This will not only create the unnecessary competitive environment, this may also bring out the worse in the child that cannot do the same things as the child that is set as a bench mark.
Remember to treat each child as an individual and focus on their strengths more than their weaknesses. It is particularly important for girls’ self-esteem to be developed as they are the ones that face more challenges than the boys. For one, they are more susceptible to crimes such as rapes and domestic abuses. With full confidence on their worth as human beings, these crimes can be avoided.