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The Different Aspects Of Teaching Emotional Intelligencefrom: Jim Holden - Staff Writer
Many people will agree that it is ridiculous to teach people how they should react to specific conditions, simply to be able to control their emotions.
At first this really does sound rather queer, because after all emotions are a very subjective medium to study. Each one of us has their own manner of dealing with things, or reacting to specific situations, and that is even the case when the test is controlled. Emotions are as diverse as the personalities of human beings themselves, in the main because our characters are largely determined by the combinations of emotions that we are associated with.
During our pre-natal development, our bodies develop in specific ways as determined by our genetical make up. The color of our eyes, certain reactions to various chemicals, and the mixture of hormones which we have in our bodies, are all directed by the information encoded in our genes, and along with these comes our intellect.
Therefore our intelligence is stable and cannot be changed. We can only strive to maximize or minimize our skilss and our knowledge, but our IQ level would still remain constant. The situation with regards to emotional intelligence is different however.
Emotions are developed only as we are exposed to specific situations triggered in the environment which we are surrounded by. These are not in built parts of our bodies that only surface when and as needed, but rather our emotions are our reactions to things during our development. This is why babies during their birth have no concept of both positive and negative emotions, and this is particularly evident with children who are just starting to walk.
No one actually told them that they must walk, yet something inside them instructs them that it must be learned. Due to the absence of fear of falling or tripping themselves up, or not being able to stand up properly, they do eventually teach themselves to walk. If there had been any inherent fears, it would have been impossible for them to have taken his very first steps.
The point being made that is emotions are part of our development, and so the emotional intelligence that we presntly have, is the result of things that we have encountered in the past. Incidentally, anyone can redirect their unwanted emotions into more useful ones, in the same way as anyone can be taught the proper ways in which to use their emotional intelligence.
Therefore, it is crucial that emotional intelligence is taught if at all possible, at a very early age in a person's development.
Teaching emotional intelligence would entail these five yardsticks as developed by psychologist and author Daniel Goleman.
The first thing that must be taught is the ability to determine and identify one's emotional states. Along with this must be the understanding of links between one's actions thoughts and emotions.
The second one is the development of the proper management of emotions. In this way one will be able to control their emotions, and also be able to redirect undesirable emotions to a more reasonable use.
Third is the training to take on the positive attitude of success and achievement, while undergoing emotional states. Central to this is the positive state of thinking which in itself is very crucial in the development of one's well being.
The ability to sense the line of one's emotions must also be taught. In the process the person will know how to be sensitive to another person's emotions.
The fifth yardstick is a person's capacity to enter and sustain a harmonious relationship with people he interacts with.
Once the person understands this, it will be much easier to teach emotional intelligence to them.