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Anger Management Techniques To Live Byfrom: Jennifer Morton - Guest Writer
Expressing your emotions is a healthy thing, but expressing them in an uncontrollable manner could be very dangerous, so here are some anger management techniques which you can undertake to make sure that your anger will not control you.
Acceptance and recognition of the problem: -
For some accepting and recognizing that they have anger management issues is very difficult. This is most probably because they are either scared to receive negative feedback from other people, or they are so angry, that they do not seem to realize that they are in fact angry!
Either way, it is very important to initially accept and recognize that you are struggling with anger management. This should help you to realize that there are things that can and should be done, and what the best ways are to prevent the possible serious consequences of unchecked anger.
Identifying the root cause of your anger: -
After you have accepted and recognized the fact that you do indeed have anger management issues, the next very important thing to do is to identify what the root causes of your anger are. This would help you focus on specific solutions that would also directly help solve your problems. Equally, knowing the root causes of your anger would also let you know how to stay away from things that could trigger it.
Letting go of it: -
Many people with anger management issues tend to bring back previous things and events that caused them pain and anger in the first place. This is dangerous since pain and suffering from the past, could easily trigger anger even from the simplest things. So do make sure that you let go, and forgive and then forget the things and the people who have hurt you in the past.
Avoid solving the problem, instead, handle it well: -
"In every problem, there is always a solution." This is the saying that keeps people optimistic, but at the same time causes people to become frustrated by the things and events that have happened to them. The reason for this is because you can never solve every single problem that comes your way.
There are things that can happen which are out of your control, so instead of focusing on the solution to the problem, try to realize what the proper ways to deal the problem effectively are. This would free you from the effects of frustration, including anger.
Create a diversion: -
Anger can cause both yourself and the other people around you considerable harm. As we said before, it is okay to express anger, but once that expression has gone beyond your control, anger can becomes dangerous.
What you should do therefore, is to attempt to divert your anger into a more constructive activity. Take note of the fact that an angry person tends to become much stronger than normal, so doing something harmless and acceptable is the best way to utilize that increased strength.
Communicate well: -
When you are angry, the tendency is for you to lose control of yourself. Once it happens, you might not be conscious of your every word or every action, so do continue to practice how to communicate well, and keep yourself in control of your situation.
Communicating well will lead to and understanding of what is really happening, and communicating well will also allow you to listen to others as well as thinking well, and asserting yourself well on different scenarios where other people lose it.
Take it easy: - This does not mean that you laugh off your anger, just try to keep it cool, and try to relax your whole body. Controlling your anger is a matter of choice, so in other words, you are solely responsible if you want to get angry or not, so take it real easy.
It is much better to think about the consequences of the possible actions that you commit when you succumb to your anger, rather than thinking of the indisputable fact that you have done wrong after you have calmed down.